Listening to: nothing. I've recently learned that creativity comes from being bored and thus I aim to.
Drinking: Cinnamon tea from my thermos that I prepared yesterday night. (it's still steaming hot). I miss the cider vinegar that I normally add.
It's 7:33 and I woke up at 7am. My eyes are only a little bit tired. And my left shoulder is still bloody painful
Outside of saying goodnight and good morning, I didn't text S at all yesterday. This felt good as I wasn't having to wait hours for a reply from her. It also means I'm looking forward to our next chat.
In the afternoon I had a long chat with A. He's still talking about wanting to start an internet business. Currently he has his eyes set on starting a blog that will serve news about technology. He plans to eventually introduce revenue streams by getting commission on specific device sales. The two main problems I see with that is, a: that is much much much too broad of a topic for one man to cover. and b: that market has been saturated since 5+ years. With prolific niche content creators such as linus tech tips likely still struggling to think of new video topics, I don't see how A can compete. I didn't go into depth about why it was a terrible idea because I don't like soapboxing and telling people about how they're all idiots and I'm smarter than them. Instead, I explained that for longevity of any sort of project, you need a reason why you do it. It has to be a bloody good reason. This is because, for any project, there will be days where the colour drains from your window. Days when you hate your project and never want to write another word in your blog again. Nobody reads it, so what's the point anyway? Days when your enthusiasm has run dry and your motivation has been exhausted. On these days, you need a deeper reason that keeps you going. As much as I am conflicted about it, Jordan Peterson still gave me good advice that I hold to to this day. One of those is to align yourself with a purpose. If a captain of a ship decided on his course of action based on what made him the happiest, he would not be useful in a brutal storm. In the same way, when your ship hits inevitable storms, you have to have a system to navigate it.
So my advice to A, was the same as each time I've talked to him lately. Look to those around you. See their suffering and see how you can help. As much as you need money, the process of helping and serving others in need will fill a greater need within you. And over time, if you commit yourself to a project, you can establish yourself as a man of your community. One of the greatest ailments he sees in his community is that everyone around him is depressed and rarely leaves the house. This condition existed prior to the social isolation requirements of COVID-19. And so, he stumbled across the idea of a comedy theatre production. People need to laugh when they are depressed he believes, and so he should let them. When he mentioned the theatre idea, I immediately had a hundred ideas rushing about in my head: the production that a community centre in Iraq put together with the threat of ISIS ever looming, my experience for 3 years as a member of a performing arts society whilst I was at university and how healing it was for me to, the memory of hearing Adam Driver discuss his relationship with acting and theatre after returning from a tour with the military and how it helped him heal. After coming back down to earth I explained what I could of the thoughts that came to me. And although he considered it useful, he believes that the people in his area are not theatre type people, and would not act nor pay to see others act. Secondly he could not see how he could make money through this.
Furthermore, he also told me of his difficulties with women in his local area. When I met him in London, I was still enamoured with the streetattraction school of thought in pick up and immediately introduced him to the basic tenets. Since then he has held those dear and tried to practice them in his area. He had a certain amount of success, dating a woman he met in his local gym. But since a while now, they broke up and he has become cynical about women. I believe that if he does this project, he shall be seen by his community to be working hard on realizing a goal that will help others. This will attract people to him, to help him on his goal. Furthermore my understanding is that women want a man who has a purpose. The stereotype of the failson who lives in his parent's basement, playing video games and watching porn all day is the definition of man without direction or purpose. Furthermore I have often heard that you meet the love of your life when you are not looking, whilst you are focused on other goals. These two ideas gel well together.
Although I did not have satisfactory answers for hime, I have faith that if he were to pursue this, he would eventually improve his social and financial wellbeing.