December 4, 2021•793 words
Human individuals are characterized by having limitations. We can't possibly be doing a bunch of things at the same time that's why, in principle, we are bad at multitasking. This trait is more preoccupying when we have a look at how big the world is, there are too many things to learn and to do already for a single person. So it's a good thing to be living with other people on the planet. We can delegate tasks and get support from other people when things get out of hand.
Typically this support doesn't come for free though unless you have really close friends or caring family members, or you encounter random people on the internet that really want to help, you won't get help if the other person helping doesn't get something in exchange. So this means that most of the time you will have to deal with stuff on your own. And this is where most individuals fail, especially highly open/creative individuals.
Putting myself as an example as a curious and open person, I'm interested in a bunch of things. But I don't go too far before I get bored or/and tired. I get tired because I have limited amounts of time and energy that I waste researching and doing things without an aim. And I get bored because I reach a point when I stop getting novelty from an activity so I prefer to stop and jump into another new exciting thing.
Pick a limitation, or somebody else will do it for you
Kids and adolescents don't have to deal with the consequences of having an open attitude in this period they can experiment doing almost anything they want. But as they grow into adults they need to know that now their actions have consequences, and they can't be going around aimless. That's why they have the option to choose what are they going to do, they have the option to choose what career they're going to study, and to what projects they want to compromise.
To get something of real value you have to commit to something for a long time. That's what universities are for, for you to get focus on a single professional area during a period(normally 4-5 years) to ultimately create and share your services and knowledge. At least that's my goal, I want to learn about my craft and help as most people as I can with what I know.
So what's the problem? It's difficult for me to follow rules and to focus on one single thing, everything attracts me. I want to do a bunch of things at the same time. And then you could say then why don't you try everything? because in the end, I feel guilty. I've jumped from one thing to another looking for something that I won't ever get. I'm looking for the perfect activity that I can do to feel happy, an activity where I would like to not do much work, and just do whatever I want.
Life is not like this, unfortunately, if you want to achieve worthwhile goals, you have to sacrifice doing a big amount of things, you have to kill that part of you that wants things right away, you can't be or do anything you want. I didn't want to accept this fact and it finally caught me off guard.
I didn't take advantage of my chances, I wasted a lot of years going around in circles and I reached a point where decisions are being made for me and I can't do anything to stop it, now I can't choose. Now it's doing what I'm told or dying. Well maybe it's not that dramatic, but this is certainly not the place where I would like to be.
Now the only way is up
Now that I've realized what I'm doing wrong, I'll simply start aiming to stop doing these things. Tomorrow I'm going to post my plan on how I'm planning to achieve this. Here are the rough ideas:
- Decide what is important to you and prioritize it.
- Cut out distractions, not just only hide them, eliminate them.
- Transform your workspace in a way that is easier for you to work and harder to procrastinate.
- Create rules and systems that you'll always follow unless a new situation comes up that literally obligates you to change or create a new rule.
- Practice doing boring things and try to make them fun
I will include more ideas if necessary for the plan to be as detailed and accurate as possible. I hope these new changes lead me to a disciplined life.
If you find yourself in a hole then stop digging.
— Denis Healy