And if you're not willing to fix what's wrong in your existing problems, maybe it's time to reevaluate your relationship status, said Wygant.
"Be honest with yourself," he said. "Are you satisfied in the relationship and if not, are you able to communicate with your partner about why you aren't? Ask yourself: Am I willing to work on the relationship -- or am I just going to have a series of emotional affairs until I finally end the relationship?"
The conversation I want to have with my wife: I was in an emotional affair, if it was not there it was close and too much energy was being spent keeping it from there. Why was I vulnerable? What I am missing or am I just unfaithful at heart? I am still at the place I was one year ago. I am still longing for a companionship I am not getting. Do I just need to suck it up and accept that my needs/wants are not going to be met or do we decide to call it quits.