Life's Natural Rhythms
January 7, 2025•1,259 words
What do you want to be when you grow up?
We start asking children this question before they can even tie their shoes. As if life is about picking a destination and heading straight there. As if growing up happens in one direction, toward one fixed point.
Life moves in rhythms. Not the markers we're sold—birthdays, careers, milestones. These are deeper shifts—in how we face the world, connect with others, approach work, understand ourselves. Each phase reveals something new, if we learn to recognize it.
Some paths make these natural cycles easier to spot. Think about a young scientist, diving deep into their field for seven years, only to find the questions they care about most lie outside their specialty. Or someone in their late twenties leaving a high-powered career, just when everyone else thinks they should be doubling down. What looks like confusion from the outside is often something else entirely—a natural shift in how they’re oriented to the world.
Take Lucy, a tech manager everyone saw as successful. Around year seven, while her peers were chasing promotions, she felt an undeniable pull toward something different. What seemed like career uncertainty was actually her compass adjusting, pointing her toward work that married her technical skills with what really lit her up—helping others grow. Her transition wasn’t about abandoning her skills but about understanding them in a new way.
These aren’t just career changes—they’re cycles of orientation. A lawyer spends years mastering the rules of business, only to discover their real passion is guiding small business owners through those complexities. Or someone agrees to a six-month leadership gig that naturally evolves into fifteen years of growth, with each phase building on the last in ways no rigid plan could have predicted.
These rhythms aren’t new. Long before life coaches or career guides started naming them, educators were already noticing the patterns. Rudolf Steiner observed how children develop in seven-year cycles, with each phase bringing fresh ways of seeing and understanding their world. A seven-year-old starts to grasp abstract concepts. By fourteen, they’re entirely focused on peers and social understanding. These shifts aren’t arbitrary—they’re built into how we grow.
But somewhere along the way, we start expecting stability. As if our need to reorient ourselves just stops when we land our first real job. That expectation of stability is what makes these transitions feel like crisis points instead of natural evolution. A career shift at 28 gets labeled as confusion. A relationship reevaluation at 35 as failure. A creative detour at 42 as distraction. But if you look at anyone who’s created something meaningful, chances are they’ve followed these rhythms—whether they realized it or not.
The signs are often subtle. A book catches your attention, even though it’s way outside your usual interests. A conversation lingers in your mind, hinting at possibilities you hadn’t considered. Work you used to love feels flat, while a small, unexpected task sparks your curiosi.ty. Charles Darwin spent years quietly observing and refining his ideas, following whispers like these to develop the theory of evolution These aren’t random—they’re signs of your next cycle beginning to emerge.
Most people miss these signals because they’re looking in the wrong places. They wait for clarity about the next step, when the real shift is happening in how they see the world. Understanding this pattern changes how you navigate transitions. Instead of forcing decisions, you can start paying attention to what’s naturally emerging. For example, a mid-career professional might not be able to change roles immediately, but they can redesign their current position to better align with their evolving interests.
Your circumstances—financial pressures, family responsibilities, cultural expectations—shape how you move through these cycles. But understanding the rhythm helps you make better choices within your constraints. Maybe you can’t quit your job right now, but you can explore how your role might evolve. Maybe you can’t upend your life, but you can start preparing for what’s coming next. Each small choice, informed by this awareness, shapes how your next phase unfolds.
This is the real power of recognizing these rhythms. Not in timing transitions perfectly, but in working with your natural pattern of growth. Feeling unsettled isn’t something to fix—it’s a sign of change emerging. Recognizing this lets you be more deliberate about what you’re building, more patient with the process, and more curious about what’s coming next.
The cycle you’re in right now isn’t better or worse than the one you’re moving toward—it’s just different. Each serves its purpose. The technical mastery that sparks innovation. The relationship patterns that deepen your understanding of connection. The questions that lead to insights and wisdom. Growth isn’t about arriving somewhere—it’s about becoming who you need to be at each stage.
Maybe we’ve been asking the wrong question. Instead of “What do you want to be?” we could ask, “What are you noticing about your world right now?” Because life isn’t a straight line toward a single goal—it’s a series of cycles, each one revealing something new about who you are and what matters most. Recognizing these rhythms doesn’t just change how you move through transitions—it transforms how you understand growth itself.
Exploring Further
These natural rhythms of orientation show up differently for everyone, shaped by circumstances, culture, and personal paths. If you've recognized similar patterns in your own life, we'd love to hear your story.
What interests you most about these cycles?
- How to recognize the quiet signals of transition
- Ways to work with these rhythms within your constraints
- How others navigate their cycles of reorientation
What would help you understand and work with these patterns?
- A practical guide for navigating your own transitions
- Stories of how different people recognize and work with these cycles
- Simple tools for reading your own rhythms of change
Your insights and experiences will help shape what we explore next.
Sources & Notes
Stories featured draw from the following sources:
- David Epstein's Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World (2019): Explores the value of diverse experiences and the concept of late specialization, providing insights into how varied paths contribute to long-term growth and mastery.
- Bill Burnett and Dave Evans' Designing Your New Work Life (2021): Offers tools and frameworks for reimagining work and aligning professional roles with evolving personal values and goals.
- Rudolf Steiner's observations on human development: Highlights the natural seven-year rhythms of human growth, showing how each phase reorients individuals to new ways of thinking and understanding the world.
- Angela Duckworth's Grit: Why Passion and Perseverance Are the Secrets to Success (2016): Discusses the importance of resilience and sustained effort during transitional phases.
- William Bridges' Transitions: Making Sense of Life's Changes (2004): Provides a framework for understanding the emotional process of change, emphasizing the role of the Neutral Zone in personal and professional reorientation.
- Viola Davis' Finding Me (2022): Shares a personal narrative of overcoming childhood struggles and embracing transitions as opportunities for growth and healing.
- Charles Darwin's scientific journey, as documented in various biographies, illustrating how quiet persistence and iterative questioning lead to transformative breakthroughs in understanding.
- Paul Gauguin’s midlife career pivot, as explored in The Moon and Sixpence by W. Somerset Maugham and historical studies on his life.
- Vasyl Lomachenko's story of late specialization in sports, as covered in sports science studies and profiles in The Washington Post and The New York Times.
Thanks to these authors and sources for illuminating the patterns of growth, transition, and reorientation woven throughout this piece.