#14 When people become memories
December 6, 2022•313 words
When we were young, our parents used to tell us so much about the importance of finding a good career and becoming successful. They used to tell us what to study? Where to study? How much is a good salary? And so on.
But, they never prepared us to handle the loss of our loved ones, salvage ourselves from a broken relationship, or handle failure.
Everyone assumes we’ll figure it out. It is funny that they never thought the same about our career.
Over the last twelve months, we’ve seen thousands of families lose their loved ones. And they were totally unprepared to handle the loss. They were stressed, angry, and hurting.
Even though no amount of preparation could help us cope up with the loss, teaching them when to ask for help will help them handle the situation better.
When my father passed away in 2015 I was depressed, had panic attacks, and was suffering from acid reflux all the time. People around me blamed my weight and food habits. A few of the uncles I know asked “who gets stress at this age?”. Nobody advised me to get help. Instead, they said, “that’s how life is”.
It took me a while before I learned to process his loss. But, it was a long and painful journey. Maybe I could’ve done better.
Today, parents teach kids about ‘good touch’ and ‘bad touch’. They should also talk to them about how to handle the loss of their loved ones.
They should be made to understand that it is natural and everyone has to go through it at some point. They should be told that it is okay to mourn the loss. They should also be taught to celebrate the life of their loved ones after they’re gone. Learning the realities of life can be painful. But not so much if we get help.