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14th May 2022

Men,

• then when you decide to pay the bride price,

Pay in instalments.

First, confirm if she is fertile.

Pay the first instalment after she becomes a mother to your child.

Pay the other instalments after every 3 years.

Don't be nice to people!

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Men,

No one should force you to pay bride price.

The modern dating market is rotten, don't rush to pay.

Why rush to pay for someone who has been giving herself free to every Dog, Dick & Dickson?

Bride price goes with purity.

Zero purity = Zero price.

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Men,

Life is not getting harder,

It is men who are getting softer.

Be tougher.

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Men,

Continue saving your money in a SACCO.

Then turn your savings into investment.

Build a solid safety net for your future.

Don't stop.

Don't be distracted.

Instead of betting or buying unnecessary things or sending money to women,

Save that money!

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Men,

Before you commit to marriage,

Date her for at least 2 years.

Learn her manners and character.

Don't rush.

Otherwise, you may end up living with a demon for the rest of your awful life.

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Men,

When going for dowry negotiations,

DO NOT APPEAR THERE.

You will be deliberately humiliated.

Send your father, uncles or cousins.

Don't go there with your 'wokeness', drunk friends and a fleet of Subaru cars.

That's stupidity and disrespect.

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Men,

If your 5 closest friends are entrepreneurs, you will be the sixth.

If your 5 closest friends are drunkards, you will be the sixth.

If your 5 closest friends are fit, you will be the sixth.

Be the right sixth.

Choose the right 5.

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Men,

This is a reminder:

You are one payslip away from poverty.

Don't be a career employee.

Don't dilly-dally.

Diversify your portfolio.

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Men,

Keep your women away from hormonal contraceptives.

They mess her physiological clockwork leading to a myriad of hormonal complications.

Use a condom, follow her cycle, or she can use an IUD.

Value your woman's body too. - but she shouldn't be FAT.

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Men,

Your woman is like a child,

What is rewarded, will be repeated.

If she disrespects you and you forgive her, she will escalate her disrespect.

If she packs and you ignore her, she will never do it again because she now knows she will be replaced.

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Men,

Once you say "Let's try to make it work"

Then, you have lost it.

It is better and cheaper to approach a new woman than to beg a woman who is on her way out.

Respect yourself and let her go.

Build a new one, don't resuscitate a dead one.

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Men,

Then when you start living together,

Set your boundaries.

Don't do feminine house duties in the name of 'romance',

You are setting up yourself for failure.

No sharing duties. Let her do her role (nurturing), while you do your role (building).

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Men,

A relationship/marriage is like a company.

You are the Director.

She is an employee.

Sex is the profit accrued.

Children are shareholders that come because of profits.

If you cannot run a business, you cannot run a relationship.

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Men,

Never allow your woman to call you 'Baby' or 'Bae',

She either calls you by your name or 'Daddy',

She is your firstborn daughter. Not your mother.

We talked about this on #MasculinitySaturday in 2019 & 2020.

Men,

Before committing,

Do a thorough background check.

If her elder sister is still single or divorced or in a chaotic marriage,

or, her sisters jump from one marriage to the next,

Bro, just fold your paraphernalia and focus on your life.

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