Things your body needs on sexual level *

By now you may have noticed that your health depends on things that you may be able to generate only when you're healthy.

This is one of the paradoxes of Chinese medicine and (ancient) Chinese thought in general. The Law of Chi ("everything is everything" or "everything is just a form of energy"), the Law of Yin and Yang, the sharp needle that is used to bring peace and ease to a patient... there are so many other paradoxes here. But we have observed these paradoxes in the West as well. We often say that one should "fake it until they make it" meaning that sometimes just going through the motions can be as beneficial as doing the actual thing.

And that is the case with our sexuality and our body's health as well. To be available and to be engaged with a partner, we need a certain level of physical and emotional health, we need to be healthy enough to allow ourselves to be vulnerable, to take a chance in order to connect.

Sexuality is not just participating in the act of sex - it is the whole package of talents, knowledge and abilities that allows us to connect on an intimate level with one other human.

So we need to start by being intimate with another person or in the process of creating intimacy with a potential partner. This is something we should do every day and never stop doing. From adolescence until we die.

Being intimately available means allowing oneself to look bad, get embarrassed, feel the shame. It means being confident enough to know that it is okay to make mistakes, to be willing to make them and to be part with being rejected as well.

Human being needs sexuality, needs intimacy. We see in Human Condition Theory that members of all races, all cultures and across time were monogamous, they always connected one-on-one. In Chinese medicine, this is the talent given to us by Pericardium, one of the 12 main organs in the body. Pericardium is also known as a Heart protector and Chinese say that it is the organ that opens and closes the gate to the heart. Pericardium is also called Circulation Sex for it's role in sexuality.

Pursuing intimacy is not just for procreation or enjoying sex with another person. It is a health necessity, a mechanism for exploring and experiencing highs and lows of being a human being and on a physical, emotional, intellectual levels. On the physical level, being sexual is a very important component of health. When we're in an intimate relationship, we produce more hormones, we experience waves of energy, joy and Bliss.

Our body needs these reactions and these chemicals to keep producing energy to engage, recover and repair and then do it again. This physical performance and repair can not happen unless we live a 100%.