Lesson 3: Projections
December 14, 2020•119 words
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20 Lessons From 2020
It's cool to know people. Even cooler to know people that are cool. Friends, family, partners? All for it.
Remember one key thing: what you have in your head is just a projection of that person. A projection made by your mind. It may differ significantly from the real person. And it usually does.
The worst thing you can do is ignore this fact; it will truly ruin any relations you have with people. Respect their boundaries, their capacities. Always assume your projection might be wrong, and never base critical decisions on it without trying to learn more about the person.
Lesson three: differentiate people in your head vs people as they are.