#73 Get rid of habitual complainers

Some people cannot be satisfied. Whatever you do, how much ever you care, you can’t stop them from complaining! They’re known as habitual or chronic complainers. They always manage to find a reason to be dissatisfied.

You can see habitual complainers everywhere. The dude next table who keeps complaining about the food at the best restaurant in the city, the old man who complains about the government while waiting to get government benefits, the lady on the flight who calls the air hostess a zillion times to complain about something that isn’t right…you get the idea, right?

I know someone who once gave an Uber driver a 1-star rating because the driver didn’t take a U-turn to pick up the customer and instead asked them to cross the road. Ridiculous!

Despite so much to be grateful for, they only see the negatives. And, being around them also creates a sense of negativity in us. According to Harvard Business Review, habitual complainers transfer negative and pessimistic feelings onto others in a process psychologists call “projective identification.”

Habitual complainers make others feel weighed down and exhausted. Research says that the continuous cycle of complaining affects the hippocampus and makes us negativity addicts for life.

If your friend or partner or relative is a habitual complainer, tell them how it will affect their lives and the lives of others (including you). Get them help. If you think the situation is beyond repair, try to stay away from them. The only things that drive us forward in life are hope and positivity. Endangering that would eventually change us into habitual complainers like others.