The Importance Of Change

I’m by no means an expert on relationships. Especially romantic ones. God, the one I’m in right now could be classified as my first SERIOUS relationship.

But they’re complex. I know that much. Throughout the last months, I’ve learned that the times of undisturbed peace don’t last, soon the next life changing event will come up. What matters is how you deal with that.

I used to despair at those quickly changing tides. And my boyfriend would shrug and say “that’s life”.
He was right, of course.

And dealing with change is inevitable in a relationship. It’s not always outside forces, near-traumatic event and other factors that disturb our sense of peace, sometimes it is the details, the daily struggle of two people belonging to one life.

But that is also where the beauty of a relationship lies. In making space for another person, in being kind to both yourself and them. In compromising, sometimes.
What could be more loving than mutual consideration?

When you enter a relationship, you have to get used to the fact that your life will change. Your habits, too, as they merge with those of your partner.

And then when things come up that you hadn’t planned, you have to take both perspectives into account. Needless to say, it’s still okay to decide on the option that favours YOU, but in a general sense, you share your troubles as well as your happiness now, and you should make decisions according to that principle.

And hey, this relationship is the best thing that’s happened to me. So much for that.

Peace out,
Emilia