Don't Stop Believing

Today we have me, with another pro tip.

Just listen to the people around you sometimes.

When they tell you not to worry, they aren't being blind to the endless possibilities of how things could go wrong (at least most of the time). They are probably right.

I know that it feels like you're the only one who sees the reality, the only one who senses the dangers, but I can assure you: In 99 per cent of the cases, you are not.

Instead, what is happening is a simple procedure. Peer review. Like an important essay, an article in a magazine, your opinion of the world around you is getting proof-read. And if the reviewers, as the outside perspective, tell you that it's not as big of a deal as you make it out to be, than that is most likely true.

For example, I hosted a little BBQ with my friends today. I was so worried there wasn't going to be enough food because I only bought things for the vegetarian and vegan people -- though I felt even that wasn't going to be sufficient -- and despite my repeated message that the carnivores should please bring meat themselves, I was scared they still wouldn't, and then there wouldn't be enough food for everyone.

In the end, they (of course) brought their own food, and we almost didn't finish everything. It was a lovely evening, although we didn't get the fire started until a few hours into it, with great conversations, food, and music. Even the weather was good, and it didn't get too cold to be outside for most of the evening.

And my boyfriend predicted all of that. He told me that it had always worked out before, that the food was plenty, and yet my anxiety didn't want to listen. I could've saved myself a lot of worry if I had only trusted his confidence that everything would be fine. So don't make the same mistake.

Believe people.

Especially if they have some experience.

Don't make it more difficult than it has to be.

Peace out,
Emilia