A Brethren answer to gender confusion
July 7, 2025•1,178 words
Our culture declares the possibility for one gender to transition to another. The push is so great, and pressure to conform and confirm everyone, including very young children now, in their "preferred" gender has gotten to an alarming rate. On top of that, the medical industry makes a lot of money pushing anyone to have reassignment surgery's, regardless of the truth and the science. This post is not going to claim any form of authority, other than from a Spiritual side. There are many reasons someone may feel or believe they are one gender or another, not assigned at birth. But let us be very clear, there are only two genders: XX and XY. When a scientist sees a skeleton, we know if they are male and female and no confusion exists because of these two different chromosomes.
However, there are so many layers to navigate, it would be wrong to assume a knowledge of each one. What about those who do not "feel" they are the right gender? What about those who hate their body? Can they be a mistake? These are a few questions this post will desire to answer, and the answer comes down to truth. The truth that is objective and absolute.
The best place to start is with God. God is perfect. He never makes mistakes, He never creates junk, and He never deceives. Therefore, as Brethren, we would hold to the reality that God created you, man, woman, as He planned and intended. When you were born, you were created in His image, and for a purpose. When God fashioned you in the womb, He did so knowing you would serve a purpose and He has equipped you with everything you need.
Where the confusion comes in is because of sin. This may sound very generic, but sin is the root cause. Most who believe they are a different gender than at birth, usually approach these, and again the word usually is in play, decisions from a place of pain, suffering, trauma, or pressure. Each contributing to the mindset that the gender must be wrong and the individual feels like a different gender.
This kind of trauma is not going to be solved in a blog.
What can be helped is an encouragement, and references to other places that are better equipped. It should be stated that a precursor study will reveal the upswing in young adults and in general, the population who are now going back to being their birth gender, also called detransitioning. Resources, especially from a strong Christian perspective, are very few to help in these matters. Why? Not because Christians do not want to help, but because many have been destroyed by the onslaught of the homosexual and Transgender community.
Several years ago, churches desired to help and to counter the trends. In turn they were dragged before courts, sued, and forced to shut down by the governing powers because it did not fit the narrative. Still, churches persevere and continue to proclaim the truth. Now, there are many who have started realizing the damage and destruction of transgender ideology has done to them, and some have even spoken up about this. What is happening, and it is rather interesting, the very things that churches and ministries stood against, and to help individuals reject transitioning and homosexuality, those ministries, and the warnings and outcry of what will happen is starting to be confessed by even secular sources. In other words, the church was right and now the world is starting to catch up with us!
We can see this with the health issues, the damaged and destroyed lives, the high inflation of suicide, on and on. The senseless loss of lives, and the destruction of precious individuals, all on the alter of sexual identity, has been so destructive and needless. What was needed was a reaffirming the specialty of men and women, their God given roles, and how God created them to be just that: Men and Women.
Without going too much in depth, here are a few places for beginning help. This blog and author may or may not agree with everything these organizations and individual expresses, but they are a good start to find help:
Again, this is not a wholesale affirmation of everything, but they do offer help and hope for all aspects needed.
But, here is where this blog does help.
First, anyone reading this, please understand, you were created with a purpose and a reason. You may be under a lot of pressure, either from hurt, pain, trauma, friends, etc. to look down on how God has created you. That is a lie. You are loved as you are, and as God created you. You were born, either as a male or female, and you are wonderfully made in that image. Yes, there is hope and a promise for you. Please use the links above to find help and hope that will go deeper than what is posted here.
Second, God does not make mistakes. You may not feel your gender, but that can be worked through. A good place to start is to read a Bible. Find a Christian who is willing to tell you the truth and not just affirm you in your choices. You need truth, not platitudes. Listen to them and have an open heart for what they have to say.
Third, reach out to a community and ministry that specializes in helping people with gender confusion and homosexual tendencies. While they have been ravaged by our own political parties, there are many that still exist.
One aspect that should be spoken of, and it will not be much is the question about Conversion Therapy. Several years ago, there was an outcry on how conversion therapy was done, how it was handled, and what it produced. This blog does not condone all of these methods. In fact, there are stories out there that cause true Christians to grieve. However, not all of them were bad or evil. They did take the right approach and they did work to help as much as they could. It is in those circles you can find hope.
The prayer here is this, that you will find hope, peace, and rest in Jesus Christ. He loves you, we who are true Christians, love you. We love you too much to allow you to affirm lies, or to be led astray, hence this blog desires to tell the truth. It is really hate to not tell the truth. To only tell someone what they want to hear and affirm lies over the truth, that is true hate.
Love tells the truth, regardless of cultural and political pressure and what society and government tries to force. That is true love. Love that reaches out and says that you are special, cherished, and cared for. Love that calls for you to come to Jesus Christ and seek Him. He is here for you and is willing to walk with you. That is love.