HIY - sexual health test *

While the spiritual health can be seen as our ability to connect to the world around us, the sexual health gives us a talent to connect on an intimate level. One on one. Having sex is just one of the manifestations of that connection.

Unlike most other species, humans form deep connections on intimate level. These connections are exclusive and long term, usually spanning years, often decades. The intimate connection should not be confused with marriage which is not our biological need. The Human Condition Theory shows us that these connections are exclusive (monogamous) as humans connect accross races, cultures and accross time with one person at a time.

When connected to another, we often put the other person's wellbeing above ours, work harder to provide, guard and nourish the person we are in a connection with. We talk of "love", we desire to mash together and to make sure they are better off, happier, more stabile and safer.

Measuring sexual health includes measuring our sexual perfomance - our ability to connect to another human, engage in forming a couple, having sexual relationship, acting with a long term commitment in mind.

The questions we should ask involve our ability to partner with another: "how long was my longest intimate relationship?", "how long have I been single?", "how would I grade the connections I had so far?".

You can use the following scale to measure your sexual health:

10 - I prefer to mansturbate than to have a partner
9 - having a partner is not for me
8 - sex is worse when I am alone
7 - I prefer casual sex
6 - I always wonder who is my partner seeing behind my back
5 - why can't my partner make me happy and do as I say?
4 - I will give you what you need if you give me what I want
3 - life is easier with a partner
2 - I am not in it for me, I am with him/her to help him/her succeed
1 - my partner and I make each other better
0 - together, we can easily solve any problem life presents

While there are very fiew people with a 0 score, the 1 to 5 scores show health and possibility of health. If you fall into 6 to 10 score group, there are many things you can do to change and create a possibility of living a fuller, more nuanced life.

I will come back to test scores for eah of the tests to address the "where can I go from here?" question...