Personal SOP (list in progress)

How to simplify life (Define what's essential to me)
● fixed set of clothes
● dietary control
● sunday weekly reset (daily/weekly list)
● weekly declutter
● exercise >= 3times & get in touch with nature
● book>podcast>movie>drama>short clips => immediately jot down thoughts

Reminder:
● health is the highest priority (exercise, healthy meal, mindfulness)
● experience new stuff. possession fade, memory last.
● life is richer when you do more not own more
● reading instead of scrolling, and sharing
● consistently investing
● saying no often
● relentlessly learning
● slow down when needed
● help yourself first
● nobody is paying attention to me really, I don't need to be perfect, every problem has a solution...

When I get stuck (i.e. decision paralysis) ask these questions:
● Where are you spending your time? What's distracting me?
Pause -> What are my goals? What I need to do, What I shouldn't do, What I want to do
● Source of happiness chemicals: Sun, Meditation, Vitamin D, Sports, Healthy Diet, Gratitude; Med-Intensity Exercise, Muisc/Arts, Dark Choc, Yoga, Smile; Animal, Volunteering, Spending time with Friends, Show appreciattion, Hug, Music

At 'work' (irrelevant for now)
● progress update journal = results + pain point + plan + need/resource ask
● optimize process, efficiency, data points/timescale
● common goal / cross functional collaboration
● review & optimize workflow, eliminate low impact work.
● be responsible for myself, my choice, my reaction..don't punish myself because it adds no value. maximize interest minimize emotion. there's no one truth.

Decision/Action framework:
● plan
● consider
● decide
● act

Checkers - independence from parents:
● physical
● financial
● time
● private info (above/career/daily problem)
● non-violent communication
● use non-controversial topics to dilute conversation re relationship/career (where we don't have common ground)

1.找到一个自己感兴趣的领域，如何谋生

2.处理好我与食物的关系，与睡眠的关系

3.不再受困于和父母的关系

4.在一段重要的依恋关系中如何自立

5.说服自己接受或稍微改善下身材样貌等外形问题

6.接受自己的天赋和缺陷，找到自己人生的主线剧情，诚实叙述

7.告诉自己人生短短几十年，如梦幻泡影。万般带不走。不该害怕美好的一切都会消失，咱们先来让它存在。享受运动，享受闲暇，享受美食美景，享受脑袋空空单纯的快乐，活在一秒秒的美妙瞬间

8.明白想要过得幸福就不能把精神寄托在除我自己之外的任何人身上。再重要的人，再重要的依恋关系也不行。人生在世，最重要的是自处。世界之外没有别人。相信自己生命力足够顽强，人生是四季，可以经历一整个冬天，也享受夏天

9.结实地过好物质生活，感受到精神世界愈发重要，发现我生命力的一切源泉还是想要爱人，想被爱。发现我所经历的一切事件都在塑造我。活到现在，有得有失，痛了很多次，可在做决策时，最后起作用的还是爱。意识到自己在活在爱的每一天，都太值得感激

10.每每死里逃生，虎口脱险，都值得抚膺长叹，一定要对自己说太棒了！bravo！活着真好，还有很多奇妙的冒险在面前