amplified attractiveness (a theory)

People tend to be more possessive, disrespectful and forward with those who have put a lot of work into looking conventionally attractive (or sexy, etc) because they're essentially displaying that they've put a lot of time and energy into being made pleasing for others. This makes others feel entitled to consume them and treat them as objects, as unconsciously they're projecting that they want this.

Most people who focus on their appearance in this way aren't aware of this. Most likely they feel it will make them more likely to be loved and valued. They've mistaken validation for love, or at least believe it to be a stepping stone to it.

So on one level they'll enjoy the attention because it feels like it's working to get them what they crave, but on another they'll find it unfulfilling (and possibly unnerving or frightening) because they don't fully understand what they're doing or what's happening in their interactions with others. And because deep down they know that they aren't their bodies, so something that is essentially not them is being showcased and desired while they remain unnoticed behind the pleasing shell.