personality

"i just wanted to let you know, i know you said moving beyond personality and into who you are makes you worry it makes you seem empty but i like how you're able to take everything in and transform it in yourself and send it back"
"wow thank you, i was worried i seemed unsettling or something"
"no i don't find that at all"

i fall backwards in a deep pool of water and sink to the bottom, trusting i'll be able to breathe the water. he falls in too and sinks to the bottom, i put my arm around him and laugh and say "well this is cosy. are you holding your breath?" and then realize/suspect that we can't breathe and push us to the surface.