Day 033

#100Days

Ownership and Drama

We all have our personality traits, but one thing that usually hits us is the victim role.
There are times when we are quite identified with a situation, and that situation can trigger some strong emotions in us.

We usually fall back to some sort of dramatic behaviour. And in those moments we tend to feel like we are victimized by circumstances.

Today I talked to a person that was in a very bad mood, because life circumstances brought very undesired and uncomfortable upon her. During the talk it occurred to me that it would be helpful to that person to own the responsibility of her choices.

But all in a friendly and positive manner: take responsibility for what you decided to do in your life. Some of the circumstances are not in your hands, they were caused by external elements that are/were out of your control. But you still own the response you can give to them.

All the other choices you made also brought you outcomes. If they're unfortunate, just move on and start correcting the course of the journey. It's easier to assume the responsibility and look for solving an issue than crying and complaining non-stop about it.

Albeit that rule is a lot easier said than done, sounds very empowering and I also love its idea, I'm not acting accordingly. Writing about it can be a good reminder.

I'll start applying the concept more often, including the small things done daily that do not look relevant enough to be taken into account. But they do.