#100Days The last day, here is some feedback and wrap up of how this experience was. I've found out that I love writing. I've also understood in a very deep level how important it is and how helpful it can be, if a person knows how to use it properly. In particular, the therapeutic writing is very and deeply transformative. I've also noticed that the pace is not always continuous, and in some days the creativity stream is simply not there. I've learned too, that taking the time to write is ...

#100Days Natural body needs How to handle some of our natural body needs? Specially the sexual ones, which I think are the most difficult to handle. Food related were possible to deal with. I verified it through the intermitent fasting. It was not easy, it required some good effort, but it was surely possible. Maybe sexual related ones can be handled exactly the same way: some sort of conscious fasting. After all, it's tied to another set of desires, summed up with some basic needs - just li...

#100Days During my lifetime I've met many different kind of people, just like you did. Since I consider myself a somewhat spiritualized person, spirituality and religion were always topics of interest for me. I have tried many different religions over my lifetime. I've also read a lot about spirituality in general, in its many faces. It was a good experience overall, but it was also very hard to find my spot. I'm not sure if found it already. For many times I have felt like I found my spot....

#100Days Life Sync "You managed to destroy the good feelings I had for you" It sounds like something bad, mean, or harmful that a person could do to another, but if you pause for a moment and think about it, you might be able to see that the "bad person" in that scenario is actually shedding some light into a dark room inside it's partner's consciousness. Of course it would bring some sort of discomfort, or even rage. That's expected. But I believe that when someone is taking oneself seri...

#100Days Beating the Overthinking habit Overthinking was never practical. But it also didn't have a name until modern times. Ok, I didn't do any exhaustive research, I'm assuming that based on current readings from what an average human (like me) is exposed to, while surfing the web. Considering the worker mindset discussed earlier, we can use the behaviour of always looking for improvement and never establishing metrics to measure achievements. This is a good example of what overthinking is:...

#100Days Availability and the sense of commitment When you want to find something in your life that feels important to you, please make sure you are also aware of the availability you have to commit to it. I mean it in a healthy way. I'm not doubting your ability to commit to something. I'm referring to that fact that you should acknowledge and be aware that the commitment you take will surely demand some energy from you. Despite the fact that you may recognise that in fact you are wishing f...

#100Days Desire I want you In you I see beauty, strength, hapiness I think you misunderstand me I think you're assuming that I am something different than I am That I feel things other than the ones I feel We do have different backgrounds, yes And we've been biased by them You assume my ways of expressing myself Are saying exactly what you read But you never ask me You never verify You just assume Why don't you come closer to me? Why don't you try to find me? Yes, I am shy, I'm shy in fr...

#100Days Self Respect Ok, this one is still a learning subject. I understand what it means, but I'm currently learning how to apply it in difficult situations, e. g. when you like someone. When you're in that state, it's usually very easy to allow some unwanted things to slip in. It's a trade we make in order to achieve some sort of "greater good". And we're usually convinced that it's worthy to do so - at least for that person - because we like them. I've noticed that these unwanted element...

#100Days Self Love For a long time I've been hearing about it without having a clear understanding on how to do it. How can one love oneself? I think this question is like those questions that are obvious to those know the answer and mysterious to those who do not. After a few experiences and some analysis I tried to improve my understanding of this thing I call love, and tried to observe it in a few past situations of my life. One of these that really helped me to understand was regarding ...

#100Days Days off It has been a long time since I took my last days off. Technically I took them in the last year, dissolved in the last weeks of 2020. Not a big batch of days off, but some Fridays off instead. I would not recommend you to do that. You get used to the new routine after a while and soon enough you're again stressed out. This pattern did not helped me disconnect. But this week I took it completely off, and with the intention of not doing anything on purpose. That was the mos...

#100Days The worker mindset, last part I think that the topic has been relatively exhausted. There is not much left to say about it. I've been thinking about it for a while now, and it feels like I've managed to clarify all the ways I usually enter in that state of mind that would lead me to exhaustion. From now on it is important to develop the perception that will allow me to stop the automatic flow of attention and focus on distracting activities. This is actually one of the greatest chal...

#100Days Being reasonable about your goals and metrics Don't overthink it. Don't over do it. Take a simpler approach for your own mental health's sake. The world is getting crazier in an accelerating pace, and we all feel that struggle to catch up and stay up to date. For people like me, it is very easy to start a lot of different small tasks and get lost in them. The world is so fascinating, so full of interesting things. But if I don't take the proper care, I can easily get overburned, st...

#100Days Caring too much for you own sake This comes from the previous post, and today I'll try to find a decent solution to the problem. The problem is to overthink your goal setting skills because you can't find a point of satisfaction, a point where you would say that you are satisfied and can stop the search, a point you can clearly recognize that you have achieved what you were looking for. I had hard times to establish or recognise this spot for many years, and in many different circum...

#100Days Done with the metrics and the goal setting for a worker mindset. So what now? Now it is time to look for realistic goals that are measurable and achievable in a reasonable amount of time and effort (from your personal perspective, of course). Again I have the feeling that it sounds too obvious to the average human. It feels weird sometimes to notice that I've struggled so much with things like this, something that is quite common to most people and that most people do not struggle ...

#100Days Being a Worker and dedicating your life to your job Well, if you have the metrics we spoke about, then you can easily measure and understand your own growth. But today I'd like to point to another direction, and shed some light for people like me, who do not come up with, or do not manage to use, metrics in their efforts of becoming a "good worker". Having metrics also mean that you have a plan, that you have thougth about the things you want to build or do in your life. If you have...

#100Days The worker mindset, part II Today I'd like to discuss where this thought and behavioural pattern that I'm calling Worker Mindset is useful. I've used it for years and I feel quite familiar with it. It was just recently that I figured it that this pattern is not always helpful or efficient in every case. It has been actually useless to most things I expected it not to be. Ok, but are there contexts where this mindset makes sense? Yes, I think so. I think it makes sense, for example,...

#100Days The worker mindset, part I This might be the beginning of a series about the Worker Mindset. I started writing about it in my previous post, and I intent to continue developing the idea further. It might not be that long, but I'll focus on that for the time being. In summary, the idea is that a person that holds this kind of mindset will adopt values that are mostly unachievable. These kind of values are usually things people would like to hold as a practice, but not a goal. Goals ...

#100Days Being too good for your own sake I'm one of these folks who tries to give my best, wherever I am (maybe I better say that I was such a kind of person. I've been through changes). It can be work related, relationship, family, whatever. I always tried to make my best efforts to have everyone's needs satisfied. Only then I'd look for my own needs. That's not a healthy approach. Today I know that, but for years in my life that was the truth and the base of my deepest beliefs related to ...

#100Days Hate How much hate I feel. That is a bit of a sick post, but I had to go throught it in order to process, understand and expel it from my body. I've always felt a lot of hate in my life, and that gave me strength to continue living and coping with the situations I had to face. Hate gave me a feeling of power. I felt empowered by it. The catch here is that hate is not the optimal state of mind because it still opens doors for exploitation. A person who is hateful can be easily trigge...

#100Days Today again I feel empty and out of inspiration or ideas. I do have topics to work on in the long term, but today I did not have all the time I need to do it. But I lived today, and it was a nice day, I did good things, didn't overcommit, didn't waste time, enjoyed the little things, saw beauty, felt love, ate good food, hydrated the body, was honest with my peers, loved them back, found and felt some good chunks of peace in my heart. That's already a lot to be grateful for :D It was...

#100Days Misfits I was always fascinated by this word, even before fully undertanding its meaning, seeing much of it's applications, or even watching the TV show named afterwards. Unfortunately I didn't watched the series to its end. The way the characters were introduced and their stories (before meeting each other in the series) was a bit dark, they got involved into situations that went wrong, and they ended up having to spend time in public service to pay for the debts they were input by ...

#100Days Cheer you up Things look a lot easier now that you have considered the possibility that you have a disease that you were not aware of. Everyone may have felt weird close to you, but they would never talk about it, because of that awkward feeling that would rise up if they did. Or maybe because they are not fully aware if you are the weirdo or if they just didn't understand you properly (they'll actually rarely consider the latter). But you did good all those years, you never gave up...

#100Days Do more of the things you like Since yesterday I started to get back to this state of focus where you look more into yourself. It is like taking good care of the inner child, listening to it, and becoming more accountable for the things you do (because they all affect the inner child to some degree). I was back in that state, but somehow started missing the focus. I think it might be related to the introduction of new routines or activities at work. That kinda helped me to get someho...

#100Days Self care Today I noticed I never took any kind of Self Care concept seriously enough. Fuck! I've found myself today saying outloud that I realized how important I find it to dedicate time for myself. And I meant really good amount of best quality time I can provide (because I understood its importance). It felt so arrogant from my side at that moment, I even felt disgusted about this person I am... just because I was asking for some space? That's absurd! That made me pause for a...

#100Days A day to calm down and put some shit together. I don't want to keep this set of texts as a journal only. I would like to enrich it with slightly deeper pieces of text, approaching some slightly deeper topics, without starting a long discussion or a bigger text that would consume too much of my or your time. So I always try to keep it short, while also keeping it somehow relevant or interesting. So today I met a friend and we had lunch together, it was some nice and relaxed time that...

#100Days Today I had to cope with the outcomes of some decisions I made. I was also making them based on some values that I believe would grant me some security or appreciation. These are not really my truest, deepest needs, values, or interests. To be honest, I would really like to explore some other regions, but I do understand (or at least think so), that I should provide some support for the people around me. I mean, it is at least fair, since I do get support from my peers. Retributing ...

#100Days Feeling powerful / empowered Create some safe space to yourself by facing and acknowledging your weaknesses. That will open you up for receiving criticism, it will open your eyes and make you brave enough to face the truth about yourself. That makes you empowered. From this position of someone who faced its own truth, you become invincible. There are no unknown weaknesses or flaws to be exploited. The ones that exist have been seen and acknowledged, and left open by choice. But you'r...

#100Days Goals Today I decided to focus again on the other texts I'm writing with more dedication, not the usual daily braindump. As a note for my future self, if it ever comes back to check this text, let me add that these days have been tough on me but I'm still making efforts to live and fight them one by one. Good things are also happenning, and the will of facing the challenges life is bringing is helping a lot. Negative self-talk, is still a thing; a weaker than before but still presen...

#100Days The Fabric of the Self Identifying the fabric of your self enables you to get closer to what you are. It is ok to be who you are, find that fabric and nurture it. It doesn't matter how long have you been out of sync, but the sooner you connect the happier you will be. Got the inspiration from this video a few days ago, and started focusing on identifying and applying that to me. Today I think I'm starting to harvest the very first outcomes of it :D Try that out too. I wish you succ...

#100Days Parallelize Started to notice the increased amount of interests for building up knowledge, career, personal matters, etc. It is important to have some consistency and stick to a plan, specially when it comes to the long term ones. At the same time, one must take extra care not to overwhelm oneself with a volume of commitments that are harder - if feasible - to achieve and maintain. So here is the point where I stand now: I am collecting a set of learning skills, and I am quite excit...

#100Days Envying others for what they have is a waste. Focus on what you want. Do you know what you want? If you have no clue about it, user the envy you feel as a hint. If you do know, then what's the reason to envy others at all? If others achieved something you would like to have, you can obviously learn from them. But envying them won't help you to get anywhere closer to that something, and you'll be wasting your time. Use that time to either find what you crave for, or to move in it...

#100Days Detox Today it was made clear to me that I really need a detox. A very strong one. An emotional detox. I faced a situation from the past that used to be quite precious to me. But to me alone. I noticed I was the one carrying that weight alone for a long time, and today I finally saw it clearly that I have no point in keep doing so. Today I could see how tired I was of all of it. I was tired for too long. Mentally, morally, physically, and most important, emotionally tired. I was tr...

#100Days Flexibility Some descheduling of appointments helped to free up some space in the day, which was good to disconnect and relax a bit longer than usual. It was quite good, but could be longer, haha. It always can :D Some stuff are still stuck inside. I'm thinking that some detox and time off are needed. Will take the idea further. ...

#100Days Socialize Dedicated time to thinking more than writing. A brief period of introspection took over during these days, and it intensified today. I've met a few nice people and had good talks. That inspired me to be more in touch with people and share good talks. I think I'm finding my crew :) ...

#100Days Death Today the mom of two of my childhood friends died. Of course they're shocked. There was a hard phase in their lives, it was really hard on them. They suffered a lot when their family split. They felt like it was all due to their mom's decisions. But actually, life just didn't work out as they all expected. Their mom suffered, they suffered. Everyone suffered. Anyways, after long years they manage to reencounter themselves and make peace with one another. I find that very ver...

#100Days Looking ahead Got myself anxious again about the future, worrying about plans and deeds, building a life on specific ways in order to achieve specific outcomes, and so on... I understand that most of it is not in my hands. I can control my choices, thoughts, actions... But I cannot control any of its outcomes. More important than that, by trying to control the outcomes, or by planning specific steps (along with its expected outcomes), I am denying, or rejecting, the present moment....

#100Days Today I wanted to dedicate time to the drafts kept elsewhere, where larger and deeper essays are being written. ...

#100Days (The sense of) Life achievements I often feel like running after some sort of life goal. This goal looks like some state of mind where I get the sense of true achievement, a state where I can feel content with what and where I am. Today a thought about that crossed my head. It suggested me I'm 'behind the schedule', my own schedule. It was as if I had my own expectations towards my own life achievements, and despite not having them clear to me, I felt like I should be a littler furth...

#100Days Being proud of not being proud It's funny that some people like to play the "humble person" role as if they were actually humble. I think there is some sort of pride involved into that. When someone comes to you and say that you did a great job, for instance, and you then reject that compliment because you don't want to "feel proud" of it, you are already being proud, not humble. It shows more humility to accept a compliment and be grateful for that. Being proud of an achievement b...

#100Days Narrowing down quantity and then quality While talking to a friend today the topic of excess and abundance came out. He said we live in an amazing world, in an amazing time, that one can have anything, access anything. I agree, there is so much out there, so much abundance, wealth etc. Unfortunately, it is not necessarily equally distribuited and accessible to everyone, but it is there. That led me thinking about our choices, and our ability to choose stuff from the whole collectio...

#100Days Overwritting Noticed yesterday that my overthinking habit has extended to writing. I'm working on a very difficult piece of text, about a broad topic that has been part of my life for years, and has very rarely received the proper attention. I don't want to reveal details here, but it has been a fundamental part of my life, and has affected me in many different ways in the past. It is also a negative thing, so it does decrease my overall life quality. So I decided to work on it by...

#100Days Living with the other living beings This one is an extension of the raw wildernes concept I discussed in another post. Today I experienced a moment with the nature that was quite close. Touching a tree as if I was touching a person or an animal, in the sense that it is a living being. That was super cool and gave me a nice perspective. I usually look at trees in a different way. Not that they're not alive, but I usually look at them as inannimate beings, differing from dogs or cats, ...

#100Days The Bound Will Opposing the Free Will, the Bound Will is that which is attached to a somewhat fixed set of ideas. We might think that it defines us as persons, or give us guidance throughout our lives, etc. Indeed, having such calls can be quite helpful. Feels like we have a North to head to. Makes life choices easier. You filter out the whole spectrum of human existence into a narrow collection of goals. That is super helpful indeed, and I miss that a lot in my life. But I find mys...

#100Days The awareness of being here and the spontaneous joy I was wondering these days about the spontaneous joy that we find while doing things we like. It occurred to me that the activity is not necessarily the mean with which we get there. It is just a way we allow ourselves to relax and enter that state of flow where we can reconnect to ourselves. And I think that is the magic we make to transform a moment into a magical, transcendental one. Many are the barriers we face when we are int...

#100Days Boredom Again it feels like the days are not lasting long enough. There's very little left of them after the daily duties are done. I also feel tired and without much energy, despite my will to enjoy time. Sometime it occurs to me that I will miss this times I'm living right now. Like I will figure out the answer at some point in the future, and when I do, I'll wish I could come back at this point in time, so I could make it right. But that's actually not feasible, it's more like ...

#100Days Nothing comes to mind today. I feel that I kinda put out most of what I had to talk/write about. I sometimes find myself missing experiences I had long ago in my life. I wonder if I could have them again and feel the same about them as well. I see I changed, but I still miss some of it, even knowing that in that phase of my life I did not have the same perspective about the world. The perspective from which I look at the world today might affect that experience. I really don't know, ...

#100Days Log Wrote deep stuff about strong emotions and some of the mechanisms that keep us trapped into dark and negative feelings. A good solution to release the tension created by them, despite actually releasing them, cnosists in recognising they're there, stop feeding and holding them back. Open the lock and let them flow out of you. Relax and let them out. It is just some internal pressure. Using physical exercises one can easily get tid of that tension. ...

#100Days Worked again on something that matters. And here I add some side notes, for braindump purposes: Day was not that great. Not for the facts themselves, but the stories I kept telling myself, which are not good and didn't help much with my own well-being. Got triggered with some events that showed me that there are some internal emotions that are not yet being handled. Worst news is that they're quite active, even when I'm not giving it proper attention. More important than all that,...

#100Days Drawing lines Ok this is a summary of a topic I will address in a larger text, more detailed and so on. It is not about the importance of drawing lines and letting it clear to people which ones should never ever be crossed. That is something everyone knows. The quest is more about developing the skillset and building up the courage that would enable a person to draw clear lines on every spot s/he needs, and to do that effectively and fearlessly. Yes, it does start with a deeper und...

#100Days Quality Have been looking for good quality content. Also checked that books look a lot more interesting than regular series or random movies. It got harder to find something interesting to watch. Could that be a consequence of writing and taking the time to dedicate to good content consumption? Could a well written book do that to a person? ...

#100Days Another successful day of just logging data here and dedicating valuable time to write on longer/bigger topics, that would not fit the timebox set to the challenge. At some point, I'll also publish those in this blog. They just take longer to be ready :) ...

#100Days Log Today was the first day I am going back to serious writing, I am now focusing on the ideas I wanted to develop, and not trying to bring brain dumps or shrinked topics to fit my timebox for the challenge. I'm writing down a quick note here, just to log it, and to make sure I showed up once more. ...

#100Days Given the amount of drafts I have accumulated since I started the #100Days challenge, and the circumstances I've found during the journey, I decided that for the time being I'll start to dedicate time to continue working on the drafts instead of coming up with small talks to fill up the timeboxed sessions I planned to dedicate to the challenge in the beginnig. It takes me some time to actually immerse into the topics I'd like to write about. It also feels to me that it is a better usa...

#100Days Feeling alive Is the wheather affecting it? Is it the fact that I go outside more often, and spend more time outside? Is it the amount of exercise I'm doing? Maybe the combination of all of these are helping me to feel better overall. There are also some psychological aspects, that I believe contribute to it as well. Maybe this perception of life ownership is the thing that brings me that feeling of amusement. It is becoming nicer to be alive, because I am slowly figuring out that I...

#100Days More on timeboxing and the #100Days challenge The challenge has been helping me to write and create the habit of writing. But in order to have it fitting my weekly schedule, I decided to timebox it, so I could also dedicate time to other activities. I like writing, and to me it can be a very immersive activity. I like this kind of activity and usually I really enjoy the time I spend in them. But I also spend some good amount of time, and I have not been dedicating so much time writin...

#100Days Yourself before the others I don't know how you manage it, but most people I've met usually hit a point of self-care where they would never give themselves up. Let's call it their botom line. There's tolerance, friendship, respect. They can all be modeled as lines that people drawn around themselves. By crossing these lines we can achieve people's bottom lines. Most people I've met usually have some good level of self respect in order to take the proper care of these lines, ensuring...

#100Days Detaching from the invisible bonds There is this recurrent idea or will that always led me to try to prevent undesired events from happening, or maybe put efforts into remediating their effects afterwards. The attitude seems to be expressed due to a lack of understanding of a Stoic principle - from my side, of course. Stoicism tells us that we should never bother about the things that are out of our control. Since there's nothing we can do to affect them, acting otherwise would be a...

#100Days Choices How to make a choice when you're facing more than one of them? Some people have it clear to themselves what is that they want, some others are not necessarily sure at first, but they can figure it out with little effort. My focus here is more on those who do not have (or cannot hear) a clear voice calling for the right direction. The ones whose compass is not set or not pointing to their North. In those cases, how can a person find the best metrics to help her evaluate the ...

#100Days Short, mindless writings and braindumps This challenge has brought me again to a state where I either take longer timeboxes to write more relevant stuff or to start these short mindless pieces of texts. They're usually braindumps. I was already hit by that before, it was on day 27 of the challenge. It looks like the idea of setting up a timebox helped in the beggining, but as the writing evolved, it started requiring some adaptation. Braindumps are good to relief tension and excessi...

#100Days I'm just tired. Did a lot today, had important insights, so it is not that bad. But it was just the daily stuff, not much really feels like preparation or cultivation of something for the future... The kind of feeling that sticks with you, and stays a long time. Hard to get rid of. Feels like all the distractions I can come up with are way more volatile than this other, deeper, emptier feeling of lack of true/stable purpose, a true North. There is still some hope left somewhere. So...

#100Days Exposure and social anxiety Did some reading today about social anxiety. It's quite a new topic to me, I've heard about it in the past, but never read in more detail about it. Today I did so. And found out that many of its symptoms happen to me every now and then. So I think I always had it, but was never aware. But as I can also recall, I was never severely affected by it. Every time I had to deal with the so called emotional distressors, things went well (or I won the battle - but...

#100Days Humbleness and the constant battle of a brave spirit and its True North Today I've talked to an old friend. We haven't touch base for years now. This was a face to face conversation, like we didn't have for long years. We've talked a bit here and there, but the last face to face conversation happened a long ago, I can't really remember. But what called my attention was the topic: to run a project that has always been his wish. I can see his grit, his strong will. He has a vision, a ...

#100Days Raw Wilderness Going out in the cold, risking to get some rain along the way. You get prepared to face almost any kind of situation: windbreaking jacket, water resistant gear, some snacks, water, etc. You're not going out for a real hike, camping, or longer activity in the wilderness itself. You're just preparing for something lighter. You add some minimum gear, and expose yourself to the outside world. That can give you some taste, or at least a scent of the real thing. It's somethi...

#100Days The garbage we do not take out Laziness? Slopyness? Exhaustion? What is it that prevents us from keeping the house clean? Maybe a sum of all of the above, plus the absence of the virtues needed to effectively . Or maybe the will to promote a change big enough in our lives. I think there can be many different reasons for one not to take out the garbage, but I must find and understand my own. Maybe today I'm lacking the will to open the space I need, or to get the time I need in ord...

#100Days Long term plans - part II Yeah, just got hit by the topic once more. Different insights this time, but basically the same core. More things taken into consideration, more maturity when looking at the outcomes and the vision to be developed. It looks like the compass mentioned earlier is not the only source. There is also potential for development of the current circumstances, and plans to prepare for a possible future. The things that can be done now that will engender wealthier outc...

#100Days Simplifying alternatives and trying out schemes even when not all the information is made available to us. There are circumstances where you have little information about the environment you're interacting with, but as you explore it, you can deduct some of its inner mehcanisms. You gradually start to gather more information. Over time, you gather enough knowledge to make you more comfortable in the ways you can interact with any given system. It is quite important to face our own f...

#100Days Ownership and Drama We all have our personality traits, but one thing that usually hits us is the victim role. There are times when we are quite identified with a situation, and that situation can trigger some strong emotions in us. We usually fall back to some sort of dramatic behaviour. And in those moments we tend to feel like we are victimized by circumstances. Today I talked to a person that was in a very bad mood, because life circumstances brought very undesired and uncomfort...

#100Days Gradual Accomplishments Things are built in steps, but I sometimes (more often then I'd like to) believe that they will be instantly made available, like an online purchase of a digital product or service. Maybe it's a very common trait of our time, that people got used to have everything given from one moment to another. But most things are built over time, piece by piece. Even the platforms that sell us those instant accesses were built piece by piece, over time. Yes, productivity...

#100Days The self talk and the ability to handle adversities in life Last night she got really upset with him because he was noisy at bed. He was just moving slightly, coughed once or twice, but that night was special because she was quite sensible, due to a lot of headache and muscular pain in her shoulders that were bothering her deeply for three days now. She asked him to move away, he was already sleeping and had to wake up, come back from that relaxed state, start to move his body again ...

#100Days Long term plans Developing a vision for what you want for yourself helps a lot when it comes to planning long term goals. Some people are born with their compass aligned to their true north, but most of us do not. I'm not sure if having such an alignment makes any difference in the end, but my impression is that peple who have access to their inner compass have more clarity on most situations in their lives. Also, they can better position themselves in the world over their lifetimes...

#100Days Power of consistency and the negative self-talk I've been focusing on creating healthy habits for a long time. There were different seasons. Some of which I managed to grow good habits, and some others when it was pretty hard to achieve any satisfactory level of development. The main focus today is in the second category, when you do your best to develop a habit, but you don't manage to go far, or when you don't see results. First of all, many items are related to developing a habit...

#100Days Emotional Clarity The intent is to investigate the mystery behind the lack of perception of the internal emotional state of a person, in particular, this one that writes to you. People usually know when they're not feeling alright, and usually after a little while they can figure out what is wrong. From that point on, they are able to decide, or at least to see, what can be done about it. I say 'usually' because from the little experience I have asking people about it, even when peo...

#100Days Timeboxing After a while, writing has taken more relevance in the day. Fulfilling the daily tasks for the #100Days challenge has reached another level of dificulty. I became slightly pickier about the topics I'd like to write about. I want to achieve a deeper level of discussion, write more, elaborate them further. But this no longer fits the timebox I set for myself in the beggining. Strategically, I should keep it simple and brief, so I can dedicate time to other tasks as well. A...

#100Days Fighting for Honor and Dignity For the first time in my life I feel like having a plan that targets me as the beneficiary. It was always the other way around. At my expense, I would always make sure a peer would have all its needs fulfilled (or at least the most basic ones). I used to feel and think that, if someone I meet is in a bad situation, it was probaly my fault or at least I should do something about it. Today I see that those were only stories I was telling myself, based on ...

#100Days Invulnerable love I believe that there is such a thing like a love that just doesn't go away. Regardless of the experiences between any two people that love each other. Call me romantic, but I've been through experiences where feelings resisted time, form, bad choices, etc. And I'm not referring to specific love between a couple that had sex. I mean a broader love, including the one that you feel for a dear friend. When it comes to closer and more romantic relationships, love can b...

#100Days Control - Sowing the seeds of our future vs the Impermanence Why do I want to control things? Why do I get anxious when I feel that I'm starting to loose control of life / present? Identification with things around me and how do I think they should be handled.. Ok, I fear the unknown, I fear losing whatever I consider I have. I fear loosing the things I am identified with. I've seen a lot of times the different ways we can pick the seed to sow in our lives. I'm also aware that we ...

#100Days Using time The speed with which we've been living has accelerated over the years. And it might accelerate even more in the years ahead. Most people are increasing the amount of time they spend online. That also mighty also just increase over time. I've noticed that this online time is not always well spent by myself. I usually spend most of it in social networks, chatting and messaging people and groups. I'm not counting here working time. I miss having longer stories or interactio...

#100Days Renewing your vows When you're trying to build a habit, you'll eventually start to feel that you're missing the point of that habit. There are phases where you don't feel progress, or good mood, or anything. Just empty. With that, usually lack of sense or purpose. At this point, is very useful and nice to throw yourself again into deep inner search, and find those wishes you had when you started creating the habit. This works well as a renewal of your vows. And it's always good to ...

#100Days Tiredness Doing sports or physical activity (if you're not totally wasted), helps you fight against tiredness. Fresh air is also a good companion. It doesn't solve the problem, but it helps you cope with it. Some say coffee would save you, but it is not necessarily true. It depends on your caffeine tolerance. I guess something similar would work for similar substances, like thein. Anyways, that's not the way to get you rid of tiredness. You (I) need some stimulation to get motivate...

#100Days Mindful Idleness Turning off the device on purpose: the very act to express that no fucks are being given from that moment on. While the analogy to the digital is obvious, taking an equivalent approach to other aspects of our lives might also be just as effective against a life filled with unsatisfying experiences and stressful situations. This can be a good way to dissolve stress in your life. The same way you do when you go on vacation and spend time just not doing anything. You c...

#100Days Purpose Setting or finding purpose in life. Some people have an inner call, or a vision of what they want to be or do with their lives in the long term. Some others have only mid term goals, but no vision. I'd like to know how people can connect to their innerselves and listen to it. Sometimes I do have moments where I see clearly the goal for my future in the long term. I feel connected to my inner self, and have these moments of clarity. But sometimes I just feel empty, but not ...

#100Days Rituals Rituals and habits are quite close, one interesting detail about rituals, to me, is that rituals can be enjoyed more, they're more conscious activities. Habits are usually automatic, and people hardly notice they're practising a habit. But rituals.., there's a whole preparation to it, expectations set, moments thought through, planned schedule, etc. Rituals are special. On the other hand, cultivating rituals can make you frustrated, grumpy, moody, and a whole bunch of negati...

#100Days Insistence Small problems that are not easy to solve, but bother us enough to trap our attention into them for long periods of time. Longer enough to make you question your productivity. Being a perfectionist helps you to stay trapped into that hell even longer than a normal person. Or it can also make you more perfectionist over time. More than that, your time is consumed into the activity of being concern with that little issue and focus only on it, while everything else in life h...

#100Days Being hard on yourself How much can we accomplish? What makes sense seeking? Are the true answers to those question always "calls from within"? In the sense that some people have it clear, and some others are just unaware of? What would it take to someone to open up and start listening to the voice of the heart? How many layers must be crossed, disassembled, or what not, in order to allow that voice to be heard, to flowrish, to inspire? Maybe those are all very subjective values, a...

#100Days Maintaining center, focus and attention strengths, while interacting with others. If you decide to act grumpily, it is quite easy to behave in a way that would help you keep focused. On the other hand, being too flexible would open a breach to slow down or even stop a person from performing well or even doing an activity at all. And that can kill general productivity, endurance, and any activity that requires consistent attention. Now looking at human interaction and activities one p...

#100Days Personal / Professional achievements When your job is part of your life, even if you can separate contexts, there is a level of satisfaction related to doing it well. That's even more delicious when your job offers you challenges you might interest yourself into. Yes, they can take extra time in your head, they can be related to something small, that might even not bring so much value to the company you work for. Consider yourself blissed if you can actually dedicate time and effort ...

#100Days Meditating with your eyes open I don't remember if this techique was already presented to me in past, by I've recently got in touch with it through a Shaman called Don José Ruiz. I watched a video presentation where he suggested this exercise. I decided to implement it right away. It made sense to me instantly, and I wanted to try it out. I started practicing that same day. The idea is simple. Assuming you meditate eventually: start meditating as usual (assuming you usually do it ...

#100Days Gratitudes: I'm grateful for: For the friendships that last For the dear friends I've met in this life For the ability to love people, even when things don't happen in the most harmonious ways. -- Today I'm too judgy about the ideas coming out. I'm writing them down mostly because I want to add consistency to the habit of writing every day. There's also the braindumping part, which is always great. I'm becoming more critical about the content of things I'm writing. Criticizing ca...

#100Days Didn't want to make this challenge look just like a partial daily journal... While thinking about it, just got the idea that I can actually come up with anything to talk about. But then I might think if that thing worth sharing or not. It will still look somehow like a journal, when you consider it a daily routine. Creating some tale or story can be fun, but might not be useful. I can, though, use this as a mini brainstorm session. It doesn't have to be always a brain dump, I can be ...

#100Days A day to remind yourself about the good things you have in life, and keep those memories alive. It's easy to get used with the comfort of all the good things we have in life. The comfort zone extends further than just our job, home, family, and so on. There are always a lot of things that we are very used to, and take for granted. When life takes any of them away, we notice the empty space that is left. Then we see how important that thing was. That thought also reminds me of the pre...

#100Days Figured out yesterday that there is Mardown support for this platform (yay!). Did so accidentally while adding the hashtag in the article. -- Found an interesting feature that characterizes well the age we're living in: ingratitude. Many people talk about gratitude and being grateful for things we have in life, like friends, family, health, wealth, food, shelter, water, freash air, etc. I've already wrote a bit about gratitude earlier, and today I'd like to mention its opposing beh...

#100Days Strong focus on timeboxing. I haven't respected it that much recently... -- Figured out some quite interesting today. It's about the relationships between ideas we like to call attention to, and the context that they come from (or the context where they were born). It's quite obvious if you think about it, but when you are new to writing, you don't take that so much into consideration. I have listed many topics and ideas I'd like to write about, but I haven't put so much thought int...

#100Days I think creativity is not really flowing. Look, I've been talking about me and some resolutions here and there. I'm everywhere, what's the point? Is this all about me alone? I had a different impression of it in the beginning. A world to be explored, maybe. But this is quite interesting, as if I already knew my whole internal world, or as if there is an external world, that is independent and unrelated to the internal one. Humm, thinking.. I'm just a bit bored today. Maybe today I j...

#100Days Today there were interesting events hapenning around. Some important changes are taking place. Good ones, and most likely favorable. Interesting new chapters coming up. Had a nice talk with a friend, who suggested me an interesting exercise that involves writing: Write a letter to you older self. Aim somewhere around 15 years from now, round it to the closest multiple of 10. (for instance, if you're 26, write a letter to your 40 self) In that letter write about: Your current probl...

#100Days Again a very nice, clear and warm day. Biked a little bit outside, sat and enjoyed a few moments alone. Biked a little more at night and finally got home. Writing is slowly becoming a companion more and more present in my day. It still feels nice to write, to wonder about what to write and so.. A few topics are kinda pressing right now, but they belong to a different context (that shall be written about as well). -- Today I thought about start adding some expressions of gratitude ...

#100Days I'm also not inpired today. Came because I'm dedicating to create the habit. Writing is still cool, and I still feel that inner impulse to sit here, stare at the screen, and enter that state where thoughts start to flow and gain some structure in textual form. Yeah, I'm fine with writing, and maybe coming here even if I'm not inspired can help with the habit of braindumping. Maybe braindumping is that what we need, in order to start writing something actually useful or interesting, o...

#100Days First working day since the challenge began. I wrote a good portion of content related to work, and that pressure to write about a lot of different topics is kinda asleep. I still feel the "bucket" with topics and curiosities I'd like to write about, but since I'm slightly tired, I can let myself be, and just relax instead. I imagine that after some relaxation time, my head might became active again. I'll be paying attention to it this evening. -- Ok, regarding something more inter...

#100Days Decided to add some more details to help me create the writing habit. First I chose a time of the day to start writing, and set an alarm to remind me that the time for writing has arrived. Another thing I also did, was to set a timebox to write. Maximum 20 minutes, at least for now. If more is needed, then a small increase can be made. No more than 30 minutes, though. Timeboxing is also good to help me avoid entering the writing tunnel and loose track of time. Of course I consider lo...

#100Days Following the suggested approach, below are the reasons I decided to join the #100Days challenge. I like writing in general, and I see a lot of room for improvement in my writing skills. I do write a considerable amount of text at work, but specially since the pandemics began, the amount of writing has increased significantly, thanks to the home office setting. I also found (quite) recently that I'm paying more attention to the details of what I write at work. I'm becoming more caref...