Day 025

#100Days

Invulnerable love

I believe that there is such a thing like a love that just doesn't go away. Regardless of the experiences between any two people that love each other.

Call me romantic, but I've been through experiences where feelings resisted time, form, bad choices, etc.

And I'm not referring to specific love between a couple that had sex. I mean a broader love, including the one that you feel for a dear friend.

When it comes to closer and more romantic relationships, love can bring more pain.
I believe problems can happen because we add our egos to the equation.

Because this kind of love transcends the ego and reaches everything, the pain it causes can be too intense, too deep. Very hard to bear.

When that happens, people get scarred (not fearful, but with scars) so deep in their hearts that they would usually never try this again. But dodging is not helpful. When we do that, we add layers of blockage to our hearts. Sometimes it is like a stone we put on top of our feelings, hoping that it would enable us to move on without that burden or pain, as if it meant an overcome.

The truth is that those feelings do not stop existing, but rather start to rot inside ourselves and end up becoming unsconscious behaviours.

Then we become more complex and defensive, and it makes it harder for us to love again.

I didn't like to write this text today, I think it is too shallow and not really useful. But maybe I should revisit the topic soon, because it feels like something relevant.

REVISIT (2020-05-01):

The topic is still relevant, and today I feel less bad about it.
I would like to add some more thought to it.

I think there are situations where a person asks herself whether it still makes sense to make an effort to fight for love, or to still love his/her significant other. Why not just to abandon that person? Specially if what happened between the two caused strong pain.

When you manage to transcend the ego and stand strong despite the pain you feel, there is still the other 50%, where the other person must also decide to love you back, or to put effort into achieving that, or to forgive, or to let go of what has happened.

And that is a very personal decision, you must let people make their choice, and then just cope with the outcome. Their decision does not belong to you.