Day 061

#100Days

Being proud of not being proud

It's funny that some people like to play the "humble person" role as if they were actually humble. I think there is some sort of pride involved into that.

When someone comes to you and say that you did a great job, for instance, and you then reject that compliment because you don't want to "feel proud" of it, you are already being proud, not humble.

It shows more humility to accept a compliment and be grateful for that.

Being proud of an achievement brings a good feeling and can produce very positive vibes around you, as long as you do not misuse that "pride" doing things like disqualifying others, putting them down for "being less than you" at something, not achieving equivalent results, and so on.

There is some sort of care and love given to you when a person recognizes that you did something good. If a person congratulates you for something, accept it and be thankful. Smile, be happy and contented about it. Respond with the same amount of love and appreciation.

Trying to block the natural joy of being congratulated for a job well done shows some contempt. It can be either for the person who congratulated you, or for yourself.

In my case I usually show this contempt for myself, for what I am and how I feel about myself. I'm usually very demanding, perfeccionist, never satisfied with my accomplishments. That was always very bad for my (mental and emotional) health. I don't fully understand the reasons why I've been doing this to myself for so long. It's maybe just an old habit.

It's like trying to challenge myself to do better every time, but without celebrating any achievement at all. There is nothing wrong with trying to beat your best results, right? As long as you are taking good care of yourself and living happily. Celebrating the small achievements is also important, and gives people some self-appreciation, helping them like themselves.

I'm glad I can see that now with a little more clarity than before, and from that new perspective I can now look after myself a little better.

Liking yourself is important because then you enjoy a lot more your experience here. You become more able to produce good and positive energies around everything you do. You spread joy and hapiness.

Disliking yourself, on the other hand, creates a completely different experience to you and your peers, usually a bad one. You are equally able to produce negativity around you.

My suggestion? Innovate: start producing good energies around you and your peers.